Posts Tagged ‘years’

Q&A: should I leave My husband of 7 years who is addicted to Meth?

November 19, 2011 - 6:56 pm 32 Comments

Question by LAURA Z: should I leave My husband of 7 years who is addicted to Meth?
I have been married to my husband for 7 years. I found out he was addicted to meth after we married, I have tried to keep this marriage together, hoping and praying that he will change. I’ve always thought that if I give him alot of love treat him good, he would change. But nothings changed. He doesn’t work. I work full time and in the process of starting my own business. I’m very successful as far as raising four children on my own, paying all the bills and jugling the kids to their sports activities. He has only worked a total of maybe one year total in the seven years weve been together. He does nothing for himself. I have gotten a restraining order on him, put extra locks on my doors and he has always managed to get back into my house, one way or another. After moving out of four homes hoping he wouldnt find me. I find myself exhaused. I find glass pipes in his posession, burned foil etc. Hes up at all hours of the night. We argue everyday? What shoud I do?

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Answer by rich2481
I would have been gone along time ago,, what are you waiting for>? him to burn you alive??

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Anti Crack PSA 10 Years Later: Damien

November 7, 2011 - 7:01 am Comments Off

Camera crews for “Partnership For A Drug Free America” checked back in a with a former child commercial actor for their anti drug campaigns over a decade later. They were shocked with their findings as he has become sicker with addiction than they ever imagined. More documentary footage coming soon… Sound is off track and cuts out because Damien spilled bong water on the master tapes.

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My father has been a drug user, particularly of methamphetamines, for years now.?

October 10, 2011 - 1:01 pm 1 Comment

Question by Shane Warne: My father has been a drug user, particularly of methamphetamines, for years now.?
My father has been a drug user, particularly of methamphetamines, for years now. This addiction is really beginning to erode our relationship.

How do I get involved this problem? I live in Birmingham, Alabama.

Any assist would go a long way to help.

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Answer by Scott
Look into finding drug rehab centers around your vicinity. See the directory focused on your city and state. Seek for free advice on intervention. Good luck to you.

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Q&A: How do you celebrate 20 years in Narcotics Anonymous?

April 4, 2011 - 12:58 pm 1 Comment

Question by Bathsheba E: How do you celebrate 20 years in Narcotics Anonymous?
My boyfriend will soon be celebrating 20 years clean and sober. He only goes to meetings once or twice a year these days, and seems reluctant to “make a fuss” and pick up a chip, especially in a new place with a new group. (We just moved to a new area.)

I am VERY proud of him, and we both know this is a big deal. How can I encourage him? I need ideas about what others who have long-term sobriety have done regarding celebrations, chips, etc. (We’ve been dating for less than a year, so I’m clueless.)

I also need to know how to talk to him about this, and whether / how I could participate. I don’t want to push… he needs to do this on his own. But I don’t want him to “aw, shucks” over it, either. He’s a very sweet, humble fellow, and I want him to know that others can benefit from hearing about his experience.

I also want to know what I can give him to show him how proud I am of him.

Thanks in advance for you answers, and best wishes to others in recovery!

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Answer by Rebecca A
20 yrs. – That is so awesome!
This is something that can be looked at from alot of different viewpoints. If he doesn’t want to share this with alot of people you have to respect that. After all- he deserves his privacy based on his accomplishment.
I would say something simple for your man…like a wonderful dinner and possibly you could use what I am going to do…
my husband is 1 month away from 1 yr. of sobriety and I’m making a video tape with clips of pictures- our son playing, him working on a project, our little rented house, our dog, etc. and at the end of 5 min. I will be on the camera looking directly into it and telling him how much I value being a part of his life and what an inspiration he is to me.
I’m going to put a little bow on the tape and a sticky note that says “watch me”… I’m going to let him do this in private so he can reflect on the meaning of my words. He is a man with those same traits and I value him like he will never know.
I wish you both well and I pray both your lives will be enhanced by this achievement of strength and honesty!

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Q&A: how do i leave my common law husband after 21 years?

July 27, 2010 - 11:29 pm 6 Comments

Question by figaro’s mom: how do i leave my common law husband after 21 years?
emotional abuse, infidelity, substance and alcoholism. we bring out the worst in each other. i am a recovering alcoholic with my first year truly living sober in one month. i had the support of counselling and out patient rehabilitation therapy. for the first time in my life, i have seen all kinds of life’s scenarios with a different perspective. unfortunately, i have realized that the relationship i am in fit well with being an alcoholic and a co-dependent person because we both had the right toxic cocktail approach to a relationship. i thought everything was my fault, end of story and have since realized there is so much more beneath the surface. i am still so scared to be on my own even if it means that i will grow. i am one year away from being 50. i still feel unlovable and disgusting, even though intellectually i know that is my disease talking to me. sometimes i still wish i could just “end it all” but realize that as another escape mechanism, like booze. he’s a drug user too, but he insists that pot is good for you. i dont agree. i feel so confused and sad.

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Answer by Xexx M
Hardest part is walking out the door. It gets easier from there.

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how does a fire department know if I have smoked marijuana or done illicit drugs in the past ten years?

January 12, 2010 - 9:19 am 6 Comments

An automatic disqualification for applicants looking for a job on Fire Rescue Departments is having smoked marijuana or done any illegal drugs in the last ten years. Seeing as how these drugs don’t stay in your system for that long, how would Fire Departments know otherwise.By the way, I have been clean for a good two years now.

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How can I look up a DWI from about 20 years ago, that happened in a different state?

January 11, 2010 - 11:38 am 1 Comment

I would like to get more information about a DWI (driving while intoxicated) that occured about 20 years ago. It was also in a different state than the one I live in, so I can’t go down to the police office or whatever and ask them.

It was one of my immediate family members that got arrested, if it makes a difference.

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